How To Make Haram Relationship Halal?Mufti Ismail Menk?HolySpeech - New Muslim Tube
The opposite of halal is haram, which means unlawful or prohibited. These terms are commonly used in relation to food products, meat products, cosmetics, Muslims are supposed to make an effort to obtain the best quality nutritionally. Your Haram Relationship Will Never Be Halal And other stupid shit people say about my partner If that's the case then yes, rethink the decision you're making. Our society markets sexuality and relationships outside the context of However, we must remember there are halal ways to do this which Make duaa daily asking for the strength and faith to avoid haram relationships.
Calligraphy gives a visible form to the revealed word of the Quran and is, therefore, considered the most noble of the arts. It combines a geometric discipline with a dynamic rhythm. The display of pictures or sculptures of creatures with a soul were debated by Muslims throughout the history and were strictly forbidden in many Muslim societies in the past. Geometric patterns, Islamic mathematics as a form or art came to exist as a consequence of the Islamic prohibition on depicting the human form.
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The extensive use of complex geometric patterns to decorate buildings, raised mathematics to the form of an art. Arabesque compositions are as ubiquitous in Islamic decoration as geometric patterns. Like geometrical designs, these too are found across the entire range of mediums from book illustration to plasterwork: Green is considered the traditional color of Islam.
After the Prophet died, Ibn Abbas [ra] was said to increase in fasting and prayer. Follow up with something good. Pray at night while others are sleeping. Fast some extra days. Just be thankful that Allah saved you from something that could have gotten worse. He is the Most Forgiving, the Most Merciful. Stop Dreaming about Marriage People spend way too much of their youth thinking about marriage. Your whole life, and especially your youth, is not about you being attached to someone else. As the Prophet said: Take Time to Evaluate Evaluate what really makes sense in your life with regards to marriage.
Is it really the right time for you? If not, is that time soon? Get the advice of good, righteous, and knowledgeable people to help evaluate. Use this time to develop your relationship with your parents. Get their take on things as well and talk to them about how you feel. Know that This Too Shall Pass One of my teachers once told me that all things in life start small and grow, except for the calamity, which starts big and only becomes smaller.
And know that leaving what is haram will only make your marriage stronger when you do find the right one by the grace of Allah. Be a Better You Rediscover Yourself Discover your talents. Develop your skills in something you enjoy. Take time to do things that will be tough to do once you get married and have less time for yourself. Be kind to yourself. Learn About True Love Learn about what halal love really is.
And yes, it exists. Real, halal love is the Prophet crying when he saw the necklace of Khadijah long after her death. Get Support from Others Get a Role Model Hang out with and talk to respectable young, religious, happily married people. Get their advice and use them as an example for yourself in your life. Also, parents should prevent little girls from going alone to the market, lest they face potential danger, and so on. Actually, whoever fulfills his parental responsibilities successfully has gained true happiness.
The mutual responsibilities of spouses towards each other: As I have mentioned above, if a trustworthy qualified Muslim physician confirms that the continuity of pregnancy would put the mother's life at risk, Islam allows abortion to save her, whereas it is forbidden to abort the fetus without a valid reason, i.
After marriage, the married couple will be united as one; there are no longer two entities two individualsbut now there is one entity a married couple. Consequently, each one of them becomes totally responsible for the other, while when the wife neglects her duties towards her husband, this may cause him to deviate from the Straight Path, and vice versa. In other words, the believing women conceals her beauty from strangers and does not display it except to her husband, while the woman who disobeys Allah the Almighty behaves quite the opposite; she displays her beauty and ornaments to non-mahram men The Arabic term mahram is derived from haraam which literally means something which is sacred, or sacrosanct, or prohibited.
In the terminology of Islamic Jurisprudence a mahram relative is generally one to whom marriage is absolutely and permanently prohibited; and a non-mahram is generally one to whom marriage is allowed. Furthermore, she makes her voice soft and attractive while speaking with them, whereas she entirely neglects her outer appearance in front of her husband when she is at home.
Verily, this is a sign of moral delinquency and deviation. Moreover, she may bring upon herself the Wrath of Allah the Almighty due to that delinquent behavior. Actually, the perfect description of the status of married couples, and how they will be united as one is mentioned in the Noble Ayah below in which Allah the Almighty says: They are Libas [i.
The other meaning of this Noble Ayah is that when one fulfills his sexual needs with his wife, it helps him maintain his chastity, lower his gaze and preserve his modesty.
Some orientalists interpreted the word 'Libas' literally as pants! Actually, interpreting the Noble Qur'an should be based on accurate understanding and deep faith, while the literal interpretation of the Qur'an does not convey its proper meaning. For instance, interpreting the word 'Libas' as pants makes it miss the exalted sense of the word which indicates total unity between the married couple.
And they women have rights over their husbands as regards living expenses, etc. Actually, the true believer knows that his wife's rights over him are similar to his rights over her. In other words, if he wants his wife to care about her appearance at home, he should also care about his appearance at home, if he wants her to respect his parents, he should respect her parents, and if he wants her to take care of him, he should take care of her, and so on. This degree could be likened to the difference between the rank of a major general and a brigadier general; not to the big difference between the rank of a major general and an enlisted soldier.
Thus, the above-mentioned Noble Ayah indicates that there is just one degree between men and their wives. But men have a degree of responsibility over them. Based on this Ayah, the true believer knows for sure that he has only one degree over his wife which is the degree of leadership, because a ship can only have one captain, otherwise we may end up with two different destinations, which may lead to confusion and consequently the ship will properly sink.
However, leaders should never be arbitrary, or act oppressively or abusively, i. The proof of that is mentioned in the following Noble Ayah in which Allah the Almighty says: And let each of you accept the advice of the other in a just way [Al-Talaq, 6] This means take mutual counsel together; the husband should accept the advice of his wife and the wife should accept the advice of her husband as well.
Thus, it is desirable for the husband to consult his wife and to follow her opinion, following by that the example of the Prophet, may Allah's Peace and Blessings be upon him, who took the advice of the Mother of Believers Um Salamah, may Allah be pleased with her, during the story of Al-Hudaybiyyah when the Prophet made a peace deal with Quraysh, agreeing to go back and not to enter Makkah that year, and ordered his companion to offer their sacrifices but no one did that, then Um Salamah advised him to go out, sacrifice his camel and shave his head.
When he did that, they got up and offered their sacrifices.
We can learn from this act of the Prophet, may Allah's Peace and Blessings be upon him, that although one has a degree over his wife, it is desirable for him to consult her and to take her opinion in order to show her respect, to please her and to make her really feel that she is his partner. The wife's rights upon her husband: It was narrated that a man came to the Prophet, may Allah's Peace and Blessings be upon him, and asked him: If you earn middle-class income, you do not have to make money illegally in order to buy the best food for your wife.
On the other hand, it is not permissible for you to eat excellent food at a restaurant or while going for a picnic with your friends, whereas your wife eats cheap food at home. So, that man asked the Prophet, may Allah's Peace and Blessings be upon him: That you should give her food when you eat, clothe her when you clothe yourself, do not strike her on the face, do not revile her or separate yourself from her except in the house.
These wise words should be regarded as principles to apply to life. According to them, if you live on a limited income, you do not have to go after ill-gotten gains, to take bribes, or to resort to fraud or forgery in order to provide your wife with fancy food, since you will never be burdened beyond your scope.
But bestow on them divorced women a suitable gift, the rich according to his means, and the poor according to his means So, the Prophet, may Allah's Peace and Blessings be upon him, said: That you should give her food when you eat,… On the other hand, you will get blamed when you only care about your own needs and neglect hers. The Prophet, may Allah's Peace and Blessings be upon him, went on saying: Do not strike her on the face.
This means it is not permissible for a husband to hit his wife's face, because she will feel deeply humiliated since face is the most honored part of the body. If one of you were to hit, he should avoid hitting the face He also said, "Do not revile her…", which means never curse the day you meet your wife or the day you meet her family, and never say to her that you are fairly unlucky in your marriage, or that you regard your marriage a calamity that you are afflicted with, because these words will definitely cause emotional detachment in marriage.
Actually, as long as you have chosen your wife wisely; as long as you have married the right wife, do not make marital problems bigger than they really are, since she is the mother of your children and your life partner as wellso do not make a mountain out of a molehill. As the saying goes, "Focus on your small problems, and they will become bigger than they really are. Stop focusing on your big problems, and they will become smaller than they really are.
You may hear the following saying: On the other hand, you can interpret it negatively, saying that the will of those righteous worshippers is independent of or resembles the Will of Allah the Almighty which is of course a polytheistic belief.
Likewise, if a wife gets so mad at her husband and says something hurtful to him, he can either divorce her and make things worse or ignore that word and consider the problem insignificant. Actually, wise people do not exaggerate problems. Let me tell you this story.
When one of the noble companions noticed that his money was stolen, he invoked Allah the Almighty saying: On the other hand, only stupid and foolish people exaggerate their problems and turn little problems into big ones. For example, when a marital dispute or a marital conflict occurs, one should never force his wife to leave the house or let her do that, because as long as she is still at home, they may manage to solve their marital problem, no matter how serious it is, two or three days later.
How To Make Haram Relationship Halal?Mufti Ismail Menk?HolySpeech
Whereas when she leaves her house, the most trivial problem may become a big issue over time. For example, if someone orders his wife, in a moment of anger, to leave the house, and she goes to the house of her parents or of one of her relatives such as her paternal aunt, her maternal aunt, etc.
Eventually, she will stubbornly insist on her attitude. On the other hand, her husband will feel very angry at her since she has not called him, and he will stubbornly insist on his attitude. Therefore, listen to this piece of advice: In fact, one should think too much before making a fateful decision such as the decision of divorce; if the wife is still at home, the biggest problem will become small, while when she leaves her home, the most trivial problem will turn into a big one.
So, one should act wisely when he faces any problem. And he, to whom Hikmah is granted, is indeed granted abundant good. Never make a decision when you are angry, but rather wait for a week, because things may change; your point of view may be altered, you may regret, and the one who has hurt you may sincerely apologize to you and present convincing reasons for his act, etc.
Thus, things may totally change. I repeat what the Prophet, may Allah's Peace and Blessings be upon him, said: That you should give her your wife food when you eat, clothe her when you clothe yourself, do not strike her on the face, do not revile her or separate yourself from her except in the house.
The right of the husband upon his wife: Consider the following Noble Hadith on the rights of the husband upon his wife: It is not permitted for a woman who believes in Allah the Almighty to allow anyone into her husband's house whom he dislikes; or to go out when he does not want her to; or to obey anyone else against him; or to forsake his bed; or to hit him… For example, if a husband asks his wife not to allow her female neighbor to visit her, because she has no moral values, nevertheless she allows that woman to visit her, she is disobeying the orders of the Prophet, may Allah's Peace and Blessings be upon him, since she should be loyal to her husband, not to that stranger.
Also, if a financial dispute occurs between her family and her husband, she should stand by him, i. If he does not accept her, then at least she will have done her best and excused herself in the Sight of Allah the Almighty. The mutual rights of spouses: Actually, spouses owe each other the duty to tolerate each other patiently and to treat each other kindly, i.
This is my last point on the mutual rights and duties of spouses. Abu Hurairah, may Allah be pleased with him, narrated that the Prophet, may Allah's Peace and Blessings be upon him, said: A believer must not hate his wife believing woman; if he dislikes one of her characteristics he will be pleased with another. He asked me for a piece of advice, so I asked him, "Has she ever betrayed you? She is faithful to him, and she never cheats on him, she is a righteous woman who performs the five daily prayers, and she is a good housewife who cooks very well and keeps her house clean.
So, if a bad thing happens unexpectedly, it should never be regarded a reason to consider divorce, which is the most hated thing by Allah the Almighty. It was narrated in the tradition that the Prophet, may Allah's Peace and Blessings be upon him said: I know a man who divorced his wife, and his second wife refused to take care of his children, so he was obliged to ask one of his close relatives to take care of them. Eventually, those children became a source of great sorrow for their father till the very last day of his life.
Thus, divorce is a serious disaster. After having kids, one should give priority to their interests over his owns, and he should make sacrifices for them. Verily, this is the perfect attitude.