Stop Being the String Along: A Relationship Guide to Being the One by Barbara Rose
The Psychology of 'Backburner' Relationships called “Hooked,” revolves around people being kept “on the hook,” “I can't be with you right now” is the phrase the pals keep using to string these people along, the “right. When a guy strings you along—casually keeping you in his life, until he decides what he wants, My passion is writing about love, sex, dating, and relationships. Being strung along usually doesn't happen right away. How long the narcissist will “string you along” is determined by you and your strength, As I always say and stand by, the person being abused by the narcissist How long normally does the narcissistic relationship continue before the narc.
As a result, they are equally respected. Games and manipulation are not an option. Do you like it when someone plays games and tries to manipulate you? Therefore, trying to manipulate the other person must never even be considered. Equals do not engage in a power play.
There must be mutual respect. It is the heart center within each person that ties us all together. Both men and women have feelings, and those feelings deserve to be honored at the expense of no one.
Being Who You Are and True to Yourself In a relationship, being The One means being who you are, and sharing yourself honestly and genuinely with the other person. This honesty requires the courage to speak your truth, even if you fear rejection. It means that you stop holding back out of fear and start expressing your feelings kindly and graciously. What matters most is that you express your truth. Holding back your truth out of fear robs you of the ability to share your true self with the other, and it robs the other person of the opportunity to really know who you are, how you feel, what you think, and what you want.
Stifling your truth causes the relationship to break down.
It causes the relationship to stagnate or slowly deteriorate. At all stages of a relationship, from the first meeting through decades of being together, sharing your truth will never hurt you. Withholding your truth, however, will always hurt both you and the relationship. When you share your interests, talents, essence, and life purpose with the other person, he receives the gift of getting to know the incredible being that you are.
You must find the courage to show your authentic self; you must risk daring to be the real you. If you fear loss, ultimately you lose your sense of self. Once you lose your self-worth, you begin to slowly deteriorate. Then, sadly, the relationship naturally follows that same downward spiral. On the flip side, taking a risk to share your genuine feelings, thoughts, and preferences will bring authentic truth into the relationship, and you can both thrive.
But if you are not suited for each other, then it is better to part rather than string yourself or the other person along out of any sort of fear. Well, the other person deserves to know the same about you.
If you receive a phone call, do not act indifferent, as if you just received a call from a telemarketer. Simply and calmly state your truth, and show your respect for the other person by letting him know what you would prefer, rather than expecting him to read your mind.
Only you can read your mind.
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You must communicate clearly so that you can have clarity rather than ambiguity within the relationship. This will open the door to clear communication.
If the person genuinely wants to be with you, your authenticity will only help by giving him the opportunity to open up and be authentic with you in return. Do you really prefer to walk on eggshells, putting up with words and behaviors that are far less than what you deserve? This is your choice. You can choose to string yourself or the other along, but in the end, this choice only diminishes your self-esteem.
The greatest way to enhance your self-esteem is to be true to yourself on all levels of your life. This will naturally be reflected in how truthful you are with the other person. Whether you stay together or not, at least your relationship will be authentic.
You can never go wrong with the truth. Nobody truly wants a doormat. Neither the person who gets stomped on nor the person who does the stomping enjoys a fulfilling, rewarding relationship that contributes great joy to life. Nobody wins in a string along relationship.
Everybody wins when you are both equally The One. To attract, thrive, and share a life with The One, to grow together, you have to be The One at all times, with zero games. Being The One means you do not settle. You refuse to settle because you know your worth. Not this guy, who proclaimed that he is a great communicator, and loves you.
He wouldn't just pull away without sharing any concerns with you that he was having. Then, the text message or call—that you have been waiting for, finally appears. Even though the text message just says, "Thinking about you. I miss you," he is still making an effort—that has to be a good sign, right? Although his communication has definitely lessened, you don't want to hit the panic button yet.
When his lack of effort starts to gradually continue, adding the fact that you haven't seen him in weeks When she met her boyfriend she was very upfront with him that she wanted to be engaged, married and have children within a few years. Hearing this did not scare him, in fact he said that he wanted the exact same things. Years continued to go by, no engagement in sight.
Every time she would remind him of what she ultimately wanted, he continued to claim he still wanted those same things. More years past, no proposal, no ring, and future talk was conveniently avoided by him. So, she finally ended things. Needless to say, he didn't try to stop her.
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My Experience I also dated a guy who was trying to string me along for who knows how long he intended. Since I am a hopeless romantic, I take the words, "I love you" more seriously than half the men I have known or dated. I believe that when a guy tells you he loves you—unless it's been less than two months, for me, it means through the good and difficult times—as long as the difficult times don't outweigh the good.
It also means to value someone's heart, not to drag it slowly through the mud.
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The guy I dated strung me along for seven weeks before I ended things. The first few months of dating were great—or so I thought. We would spend long weekends together, see each other during the week and would have daily communication—throughout the day. This was the bar that he set and established. Then, things began to change.
He would make plans and then cancel last minute—never suggesting a new date or time to see one another.
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When I would suggest an alternative day, he would agree, but then have an excuse to cancel last minute Weeks continued to go by while I received text messages—just enough to emotionally entice me.
When I started to wonder why we still hadn't seen each other, something any woman would do, he told me that seeing me only twice in seven weeks was not that big of a deal. He also had the audacity to tell me that pressuring him would only push him away.